Another friend of mine is divorcing. It makes me sad. And it makes me sad when I go to weddings, too. I want to warn the couple: the chances are very, very (very) good that there will be a “for worse.”


But I’m also sad at how our faith community handles family breakdowns as well. I don’t think we’ll ever see or comprehend the amount of damage the Doug Phillips/Bill Gothard situations have created. I can’t help but think of their wives.


It used to be, typically, that being wives and mothers was a normal event, and that most women were home to live that out. I remember, as a kid, only one mom on the block leaving the home to seek outside work, and that it was a touch weird. In the afternoons, every kid on the block was outside, roller skating, biking, playing soccer. We raced home chasing our fathers as they drove home from work in time for the evening meal.


Was it easier to stay married then?


I don’t know. But I do remember that my mother had plenty of friends nearby, and that she had the leisurely time in the afternoon to make Greek coffee and to chat. And I’m guessing that they didn’t just talk about knitting patterns and weather but also spent some time laughing and griping about whatever their hubbies were and weren’t doing. At the end of it, though, they just rinsed out their coffee cups and went on with it. And “it” was usually a marriage that lasted decades upon decades, even in the rare midst of friends yanking friends out of truly abusive situations.


Today, however, our society finds it a touch weird to stay home, and especially to have and raise any number of children more than one or two. In the midst of defending our choices to do so, many Christian women (especially) have clammed up regarding any sort of problem in their family lives.




Well, if you share anything, two things might happen. One, a lack of sympathy: you’re the one that decided to (supposedly) “throw away” an education or other opportunity. This is especially compounded if the wife has ever preached on how wonderful marriage or home life is. Or, two, a pious response rebuking your sin in sharing, of “gossip”, and supposedly spreading ill-will regarding your husband. Both of these are multiplied like crazy if the man is someone in good standing in the church or community.


And you can almost hear the taunts, then, too: she trusted in God, let her trust in Him now, and let us see if this cross she bares disappears.


So, women, especially Christian women, typically remain silent. They don’t have friends over for coffee to let off steam and they certainly don’t ask for help. Because, and this is true also, many times the courage that it takes to ask for help is answered by well-meaning promises for prayer and accountability…but those don’t really happen, not really. Who has leisurely time in the afternoons anymore?


What echoes instead in a suffering woman is this: a wise woman builds her house, but a foolish one tears it down. No one I know wants to be the cause of a fallen house, regardless of her husband’s part in it. And too many, I’m sad to also say, Christian women will look to that wife as the ultimate cause of the break. The guilt of sinning (supposedly) in looking for help compounds the problem; it can feel like you’ve sinned against the Lord Himself.


So my friend, currently divorcing, stayed silent. And now she is divorcing and nothing I can say or offer will cause her to reconsider or to even ponder what part she had in the whole mess. It’s just too late.


So what do we have? A lot of very dignified Christian women acting in public like nothing ever gives them hives or reasons to cry in the shower. A lot of very sad Christian women dealing with trouble in complete loneliness. A lot of secular women pointing fingers and wagging their tongues at the fallout…and a lot of Christian women doing the same, even if it’s just in self-righteous thought. And, unfortunately, we have a lot of divorces, both inside the faith and out. Broken families hurt all of us.


One thing I know from all of this. We can’t solely rest on and interpret and apply our faith through the words of any man, whether it be a popular evangelical preacher, a lexicon author or Calvin himself. Scripture interprets scripture, scripture defines itself. If you want to *follow* someone, let it be Jesus Himself, who will never leave nor forsake any Christian, and will not rebuke or cast out the one who comes to Him in anguish, praying for the salvation of her marriage. God’s wisdom and comfort is right there in your Bible in plain English.


If you are in the midst of a trial in your marriage, please take the time to read this. I hope it gives you both sympathy and hope. Please notice her very real pain. Please notice her dependence upon the Lord. And please know she had FRIENDS who listened and counseled and did not count it as sin to share her trials.


What is the ultimate-fix-any-marriage answer? I don’t know, but maybe more coffee with friends wouldn’t hurt.




I am decluttering and downsizing and packing away my belongings. One box, one room, one area at a time. Even as the garage sale pile grows bigger, even as the trips to send off donations gain frequency, I am still bewildered about how I am going to make this downsize work. I’ve taken measurements of every room in the new house, and I *think* I know where everything will go, but until I’m there…I just won’t know. I have a feeling I’ll be doing another garage sale (or two) once we’re in our new town.


Meanwhile, we enjoyed preparing for and celebrating Easter, or Resurrection Sunday. Even with all of the activities we did, the decorating, the singing, fellowship and baking…I still pondered why it seemed I put more effort into Christmas. After all, if I had to choose THE holiday I most appreciate, I know it would be recognizing and remembering the day my Savior was raised from the dead. It gives me much to think about, how and why we do what we do.


Even in the midst of packing, we still enjoy having people come over. This was a practice session for sunrise service. The talent in our small church body is incredible and we are all blessed by them.




While trying to pack and get ready to move, I’m trying to keep things as “normal” as possible. We’re still homeschooling, doing laundry, feeding the animals. I spent Holy Saturday dyeing some eggs red, in the Greek tradition.




I think what I liked best was the polishing afterwards; it really brought out the shine!




Meanwhile, I had a sponge going for the Greek Easter bread my mom taught me how to bake.




Rising and baking and trying not to pick at it before Sunday…


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We went one more time to meet with the current owner of the house we’re getting into. I freely admit I am completely smitten with the landscaping and gardens. As sad as I am to be leaving all of the gardens and work I did in my current house, a good amount of discovery and wonder and beauty is awaiting me!




One funny story that I shared with Tom…I was wandering through my current gardens and thinking of plants that I would miss. Like my lilac bush, which I love to cut from and thoroughly enjoy for that short stint that they bloom in May. At the new house, I was trying to console myself, reminding myself that I could plant again the things I have loved. And then….I looked up….and what do you think I saw? THREE small growing lilac bushes!! Three!! I wanted to cry. God is so sweet to me, to go ahead in such ways. It gives me more confidence.


The tulips at the new house were in a riot. I can’t wait to harvest from my own yard and bring them into my kitchen and living room and bedroom…




Here are some hostas coming up. I also saw many hollyhocks on their way and much more. If all of that delightfulness wasn’t enough, the owner gave to me at least a dozen pages with plant lists and MAPS of everything he and his wife had planted, labeled. I was amazed!!




Here is the little pond that I can watch outside the kitchen sink window.The owner says fish, frogs, and birds love it. I’m sure I will enjoy watching it over the years.




I just liked this, this little yellow snail matching the trim so nicely.




My husband seems to be handling all of the changes pretty well. He still is pretty goofy and knows how to make me laugh. Which is what I need a lot of these days!




I hope your spring is a lot more relaxing than mine! The air around my current house smells so sweet, like honey, with all of the fruit trees and various plants around the porch in bloom. Well, you know what *my* big spring projects are…what are some of yours?






Rehydrating Dehydrated Sourdough Starter

April 16, 2014

Well, so much for “zero doubts” in getting my dehydrated starter perky and going again. I said as much on my post on dehydrating the starter, and I figured after almost a year, it was time to raise the starter. I wasn’t successful.   This is what I began with, an airtight mason jar of […]

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Part Two: Upsize

April 15, 2014

In the midst of downsizing our living quarters, we’ll be upsizing our family. Yes, we are expecting baby #8.   I appreciated rereading Matthew 27 this past week. Jesus, the most innocent man ever, stood with dignified silence in the midst of false accusations, mocking, insults, and wrong assumptions. It gave me courage to relay […]

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Part One: Downsize

April 14, 2014

Well, I promised to share some news, so here goes. We are moving. Actually, downsizing. Actually, almost micro sizing, compared to where we’ve been. My current house is a with boxes everywhere and things collecting for garage sales, Goodwill, and Craig’s List.     This is very bittersweet for us. Bitter in that we […]

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First, You Take a Deep Breath…

April 5, 2014

…and that’s what I’m going to do for this week. Take a deep breath. Because before I share with you all the absolute craziness happening around here, I’m going to take a week off the net and hang out with a friend in the city. We plan to take a lot of art classes and […]

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Natural Face Care

April 1, 2014

My post on homemade face cream continues to be a favorite among my readers. Ironically, I very rarely make that face cream. Mostly, because I’m lazy   That’s not to say that I buy fancy facial products though. I just can’t spend that much for it, nor do I want all of the *interesting* ingredients […]

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An Alternative to Obamacare

March 30, 2014

Podcast: Play in new window | Download   Rather than join the chorus to rant about Obamacare, I thought it might be more helpful to hear about an alternative. Join us as we talk with Jamie Pyles about Samaritan’s Ministries and hopefully answer any questions you may have about this organization.     If you decide […]

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Do You Know Affliction?

March 24, 2014

Podcast: Play in new window | Download It’s great to get behind the microphones with my husband again! In this episode, I share about my new book, Present, coming out soon, and offer to you some encouragement regarding affliction. We’re not spared affliction in our lives, but in Christ, we are never alone within in […]

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Spring Planting

March 21, 2014

Well, it’s the first day of spring and I finally closed my eyes to the mess indoors and went outside. I’ve had starts by my kitchen windows, and because I’m getting tired of working around them, decided some of them could go outside. I put a bunch of kale seedlings out, and topped it with […]

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Tying Up Loose Ends

March 20, 2014

Tightening up and tying off the ends of my first woven silk scarf. It drapes beautifully, but I am ready to get out the cottons and make a good dozen (and non-finicky) kitchen towels.     My husband meets with the “potential house” owner this weekend. I suppose that will be another loose end to […]

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Retreat and Reboot

March 18, 2014

Six of my girlfriends and I went up to the mountains and spent a couple of nights in a log cabin. It was a nice retreat, a chance to spend time with one another and rest. We each brought an offering to share for a devotional, and then took turns praying for each other’s needs during […]

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Mission: Un-Organize My Home

March 5, 2014

There’s nothing quite like considering a massive downsize to make you rethink each and every thing you own. Many of us know the quote by William Morris, “…Have nothing in your houses that you do not know to be useful, or believe to be beautiful.” Well. Yes. Except that it all was useful and beautiful at one time. And some of […]

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Why I’ve Been Quiet

March 3, 2014

Oh, where oh where to begin…. This is going to be equal to about a dozen blog posts, but I’m going to just dump them all here. You can attend to the subtitles and read to your interest(s). MARRIAGE: Twenty-two years later, we’re still in the ebb and flow of relationship. That happens, doesn’t it? […]

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Marriage and the Art of Compromise

February 22, 2014

I was in the kitchen grinding some coffee recently and took a longer glance at my little set up. Hand grinder, coffee beans, electric grinder.     I prefer the hand grinder. It’s slow. It’s quiet. It grinds very fine and of course I think the flavor is better, too. It is something that forces […]

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More Sewn Bible Covers

February 12, 2014

It looks like we finally got a little bit of winter here in the Pacific Northwest, at least enough to snow us in and make a good excuse to spend extra time in the kitchen making pumpkin doughnuts. We live at the end of a long gravel road and without a spiffy 4×4 (we dream […]

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On Savoring the Things of God

January 29, 2014

Matthew 16:23   But he turned, and said unto Peter, Get thee behind me, Satan: thou art an offence unto me: for thou savourest not the things that be of God, but those that be of men.   I’ve been parked in the book of Matthew for a bit, mainly because of Bible Study Fellowship. If […]

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“I Need to Go to the Store”

January 21, 2014

I say those words far, far too often. In my case, it’s about twice a week, which may or may not sound as ridiculous to you as it does to me. But for as many years as I’ve worked towards decreasing my dependence on the supermarket, here I still am. I find it not only […]

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I Didn’t Ask for This…

January 15, 2014

Matthew 14:22   And straightway Jesus constrained his disciples to get into a ship… CONSTRAIN, v.t. [L., to strain, to bind...] In a general sense, to strain; to press; to urge; to drive; to exert force, physical or moral, either in urging to action or in restraining it…. One of the risks of following Jesus is that sometimes […]

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On Goal(s) Setting

January 4, 2014

Isaiah 52:12   For ye shall not go out with haste, nor go by flight: for the LORD will go before you; and the God of Israel will be your rereward.  I love the beginning of a new year much as I love Mondays. Fresh starts. New days. Hope. In setting goals for the day or week or month […]

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How to Have the Christmas Spirit

December 23, 2013

It’s interesting, this time of year. So much music and movies and chatter about the Christmas spirit, about how to get it, and what the season is “really about” (depending on whom you ask). Sometimes I feel happy about all of the activity and lights and peppermint. Sometimes I just feel emotionally manipulated by holiday […]

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Simple Christmas Decorations

December 17, 2013

I’m a simple gal at heart, and I enjoy things that are natural, handmade, whimsical. Here is a little tour of some of the decorations around my home that fall into one or more of those categories.   Orange slices are easy to dry. I put the slices onto parchment and then slid them into […]

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I Wrote a Book! And More LOOMing Projects

December 9, 2013

If you’re on my email list (and you are, right?) you already know that I’ve written a book. If you’ve been with me a long while, you also know that A Happy Home was a blog I quit for a short season because I was so completely distracted by the internet and its siren call. […]

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The Other Side (of the Kitchen)

December 8, 2013

Not that anyone was waiting on the edge of their seats, but here is the other half of the kitchen decorated for Christmas. You can see where I started here.   I put little ornaments here and there on the shelves. And yes, those vanilla cocoa stirrers are yummy.     Then, I hung up […]

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How To Juggle Multiple Sourdough Starters

December 5, 2013

I’ve been feeling the need to update my post on whole wheat sourdough bread, mainly because baking with sourdough is far, far easier than the recipe I left there. And now that I’ve been at it for several years, I’ve also gotten to a nice rotation in juggling multiple sourdough starters. I get most of […]

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Advent as a Time of Rest

December 3, 2013

Is this a restful season for you? I was thinking of this as I was putting the kitchen gardens to bed for the winter. The garlic was long ago planted, and everything else has been either pulled up or pruned, and a nice thick layer of mulch put on top. It doesn’t feel like bracing […]

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Because We Need a Little Christmas…In the Kitchen

November 29, 2013

The bad news is that I’m having serious website issues so please excuse any mess while we try to fix mistakes we didn’t ourselves make to begin with but are sure to add to as we muck about in mires we are mostly clueless about. If you really want to know what’s going on, sign […]

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Scrappy Sewn Candy Canes

November 24, 2013

This sciatic injury has taken away some things I like to do…like pilates, like horse riding, like walks down my gravel road.  A month later, the pain is not keeping me up at night but I still have some nerve damage in my leg and foot, so I am finding less active things to do. […]

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Christmas Card Art: From Pinterest to Pin-ter-DO

November 20, 2013

I love how you can learn so many things on the internet. I think the trick is to not simply pop everything onto Pinterest for that nebulous “whenever” but to actually try your hand at some of the things that inspired you to pin them in the first place. Many thanks go to Christy Tomlinson […]

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One Happy Home Morning

November 18, 2013

I thank God for nights of unbroken sleep, but it took many nights of awakenings to cultivate that gratefulness.  Isn’t it interesting, how entitled we feel with regards to our blessings, God’s grace, that when His hand is removed from one or more of them we feel angry, frustrated, or sad (or is that just […]

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If There’s an Empty Barn, Rejoice

November 11, 2013

Habakkuk 3:17-18   Although the fig tree shall not blossom, neither shall fruit be in the vines; the labour of the olive shall fail, and the fields shall yield no meat; the flock shall be cut off from the fold, and there shall be no herd in the stalls: Yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will joy in the God […]

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Longing for Your Dream? Practice.

November 7, 2013

I’ve been thinking, that in my quest to live a quiet(er) life, too often I think of my YiaYia and the little two room house she lived in, as if turning Waldonesque would center my heart.  I realize, logically, that this is not so, that discontent is not easily assuaged by change in circumstance or […]

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A Happy Home is Not Painless

November 2, 2013

Nothing brings out true colors like the palette of suffering.  I wrote about this earlier and it still remains one of the most popular posts.  Suffering is an excellent schoolteacher, both in your own life and in the life of others.   SUFFERING IN YOUR OWN LIFE   PHYSICAL PAIN   I took a wrong […]

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3 Reasons to Art Journal

October 28, 2013

1.  It’s quiets the mind, especially on an evening in front of a fire (even if it’s just from propane).  Music optional.     2.  It’s a little of everything:  collage, pencils, watercolor, stuff (AKA as ephemera).  Good for the indecisive or bored .     3.  It’s hard to be in two places at […]

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I Don’t Do Facebook…I Painted My Kitchen Instead

October 24, 2013

Not participating with Facebook is interesting.  For one, some folks find that almost impossible, almost as impossible as, say, not owning a smart phone.  I casually mentioned my said absence to a barista wanting to sign me up for coupons (“Just *like* us!”). “Oh, I like you all just fine!  I’m just not on Facebook…” […]

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Seven Considerations Before Starting (or Continuing) a Blog

October 19, 2013

photo credit: Mike Licht, via photopin cc This is my second blog.  I began the first one in 2006 and deleted it to who knows where in etherspace in 2008.  I had struggled with where I fit in the internet world and many of my readers resonated with the tension between the desire to […]

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Visit Our Studio!

October 12, 2013

It is really fun to podcast with my husband, and I encourage you to give one of our shows a listen if you haven’t done so yet.  Would you like to see our studio?  Enjoy!

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Fall: Time to Harvest (Fruit), Time to Plant (Ideas)

October 9, 2013

Right on cue, the rains have fallen and the winds have begun to dust the alders and firs outside my home. Autumn is here!  Down the gravel drive, unpicked blackberries lie limp on the vine, their leaves turning reddish and preparing to die down for the season.  I am thankful for it.  I love this […]

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Trades for the Upcoming Art & Soul Retreat

September 26, 2013

One of the fun things going on at the Art and Soul Retreat is an opportunity to participate in trades.  From what I understand, you bring some artwork or supplies or whatnot that you can *trade* with someone else at the event.  I had no idea what I had to offer, but I thought I could […]

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Ten Reasons I Use the King James Bible

September 23, 2013

  I don’t know why but it always rubs me raw when King James readers are all lumped into whatever the clump d’jour is.  Let’s be clear.  Using a KJ Bible is not a salvation issue.   The color of your Bible cover isn’t going to keep you from knowing the Lord, and other translations […]

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Suffering–and What to Do With Old Journals

September 22, 2013

I pondered what to do with all of the old books, those thick notebooks full of prayers, thoughts, dreams and probably far too many complaints.  They all sat on the floor for months, giving me time to flip through, read a little here and there.  Some of it made me laugh.  But lots of it […]

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To College by 12….and Beyond!

September 11, 2013

Podcast: Play in new window | Download   I was very blessed to speak with Mona Lisa and Kip Harding.  They are the loving parents of ten children, and six of them have begun college coursework by the age of 12.  At the time I was struggling with issues like,  ”Am I overloading the kids […]

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Eat Well

August 30, 2013

pastured eggs, kale, chanterelles, red onions, tomato, fig, seaweed bulletproof coffee on the side   It doesn’t much matter that we know we’re eating junk.  Guilt over the half bag of cookies? Check.  Late night snacking? Check.  Dare I say soda-pop? Check. But, eh, you only live once and a little bit, moderation even, doesn’t […]

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Last of August Break

August 29, 2013

Here’s the last of simple photos for my August break.  We just came back from a road trip; it was wonderful!   PACK   HEAR Ezekiel 43:2   And, behold, the glory of the God of Israel came from the way of the east: and his voice was like a noise of many waters: and the earth shined with […]

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August 24, 2013

I’m down to the last stack of my journals to peruse and…well…get rid of.  Getting rid of the early years of journaling, late teens, was easy; do I want anyone to find and read all that junk? Hardly!  The recent stuff, however, is harder because I’m still processing through a lot of the same things […]

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August 23, 2013

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Far Away

August 22, 2013

I was wondering how I was going to capture this theme of “Far Away” for the August Break.  Hubby obliged  

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August 21, 2013

    I love hollyhocks, but consider myself to be more of a dandelion

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Looking Down

August 20, 2013


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Summer Break

August 19, 2013

Very much enjoying my August blog break.  It’s given me opportunity to play with my camera more, work on schoolwork, do some other writing, and read a lot of books.  Oh, and sleep  I hope you’re giving yourself some time through the year to pull back and rest a bit, too.  (Wait, was that a […]

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